SHICHIDA METHOD: 100 wisdoms how to develop your child‘s intellectual ability/七田式・本当の知力をつける100の知恵

[6. Never make your child take any program he/she doesn’t want to learn.]

Are you making your child learn or try programs/activities which he/she is not interested in?

When your child starts trying new activities, parents need to make sure that they really want to learn it.

If the child doesn’t want to or like the activity, parents shouldn’t force their children to take it.

If your child isn’t interested in the activity which you want him/her to learn, his/her interest should come first.

Even if parents choose for their children programs that may seem like good activities that will help develop their talents, however if you child has no motivations or interests, it will not help your child develop their abilities.

If there is any activity which you want your child to learn, parents should use their examples to show your child how much you enjoy learning and doing that activity yourself.

For example: parents that love playing tennis will enjoy teaching their children how to play. The child will see how interested their parents are in the sport and in turn will tend to try and play tennis with their parents. By simply being involved with the sport themselves, the parents would be able to encourage their children to develop their tennis abilities.

Your example of being involved in the activities for your children gives them the motivations and interests to learn the activities for themselves and they will be more likely to learn better.

【⑥本人が習いたがらないものには無理して行かせない】

子どもが興味を持っていることを習わせていますか?

習い事をさせるときは、本人に習いたい意志があるかどうかあらかじめ確認し、嫌だというものには無理に行かせないようにしましょう。

もし、子どもが習いたいものと親が習わせたいものが違うのであれば、子どもの興味を優先すべきです。

子どものやる気がないのに習わせても、それは子どもの能力を大きく引き出すことにはならないからです。

親が習わせたいものがあれば、まず親自身が楽しく学んでいる様子を見せて、子どもが「自分も習いたい」と自発的に言い出すよう、上手く動機づけすることが大切です。